Soul-Care from the Cave

Read: I Samuel 22:1-2; Psalm 142 What does it look like to care for our own souls when hope feels like a distant memory? When what was promised is not delivered? David, forced to flee from a raging king, had made his temporary home in an abandoned cave. Bad news was imminent. Saul and his army were in hot pursuit, ready to take his life.

David was no stranger to caves. But this cave was more than a place of shelter for a tired shepherd boy. It was a place where he would learn resilience- how to relate to God in times of deep loss and confusion. How to steady his feet on God's promises and forge ahead with hope. Here are some ways we can learn, like David, to practice soul-care in the cave:

• Talk to God about your trouble. We can be brutally honest here. God is wise and sensitive, NOT fragile. He can handle our lists of complaints. I recently became extremely frustrated with a situation I was having to deal with. I was angry at others and God for not having solved my problems. In my frustration I said, "Leave me alone God!  Lay off!" Those words surprised me as they came out of my mouth.  I realized, however, that God was not shocked; he did not retreat. Those weren't the only words I said as I poured out my heart to Him. He heard every raw, gut-level complaint, and he loves me just the same. David said, "I pour out my complaint before him; I tell my trouble before him" (Psalm 142:2). We can tell God anything. He can't break and he won't run away.
• Know He Knows. We can be assured that God knows the exact place we're in and the trajectory we're on. He knows. From inside the cave, there is a lot we can't see, much we don't know. Our vision and perspective may be limited by things outside of our control. But rather than feeling forced into a corner by our limited understanding, we can choose to take advantage of the opportunities the cave gives to relate, reflect and regroup. There is a knowing which comes from this. We begin to say with David, "When my spirit faints within me, you know my way (Psalm 142:3). Yes, He certainly does.
• Give people the benefit of the doubt. People aren't always going to be in a position to help us. We come to seasons in life when nobody seems to understand or care. Those who try to help may give simple answers to complex questions. They just don't understand. This season in the cave is between us and God. That should release us from placing the burden of making it better on anyone else, and to accept them for who they are, not what they can or cannot do about our situation. David despaired, "there is none who takes notice of me; no refuge remains to me; no one cares for my soul." (Psalm 142:4) Fortunately that's not true all of the time. Just sometimes, and often in the cave.

I love how David ends his psalm in hope:

Bring me out of prison, that I may give thanks to your name! The righteous will surround me, for you will deal bountifully with me. - Psalm 142:7

I'm still learning the value of the cave, the treasures which God reserves for me when I'm willing to sit in the dark with Him for a season. How do you find ways to care for your soul in life's darker seasons? I'd love to add a few more strategies to my list.

Prayer: Jesus was sent into the wilderness (Matthew 4:1). David was forced into a cave. Whether I'm being sent to the hard places or feel forced into them by circumstances beyond my control, help me to know that You know my way. May I learn life-transforming lessons while walking with You in difficult times.

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When God Hides

 “Truly, you are a God who hides himself, O God of Israel, the Savior.” -‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭45:15‬ ‭ESV‬‬

My dog can become frantic when she loses the scent of a rabbit or some other creature trying to elude her. With her nose to the ground she zig-zags through through the overgrown brush and weeds seeking the scent which originally started her on her quest.

Does God ever intentionally seek to elude us by going down some rabbit trail, a path familiar to him, yet strange to us with its twists and turns? If so, how are we to handle these seasons of God "hiding"? And how can we coach others through these times, helping them to maintain perspective and hope?

Personally, I've come to seasons in life when God seems to be hiding, distant and beyond reach. I somehow lose the "scent" which attracted me to His call in the beginning. At one point I was hot on the trail, only to discover the place or situation I now find myself in is disturbingly void of His presence. Doubt invading my heart and mind, I wonder, Was I chasing the wrong thing altogether?

Much of the confusion we deal with when God seems to be hiding is connected to our perspective. The following tips can help us and our clients discover that God is not playing a cruel game of hide and seek, nor has He forgotten. Rather, God's hiding is:

1. Temporary- This is a simple yet powerful reminder when one is feeling ignored by God. Some good coaching questions may be, How have seasons similar to the one you're now experiencing turned out in the past? In what ways have you known God to be faithful? What hopeful outcome can you envision on the other side of this trial?

2. An Invitation- When God seems absent, I like to think that He is inviting us into His own version of "hide and seek." A disillusioned individual may need to be reminded of God's invitation with questions such as, In this challenging season, what new thing might God be inviting you into? What about His character is he waiting to show you?

3. Purposeful- Upon receiving word that Lazarus was sick and dying, Jesus stayed away two more days (John 11:6). From this and other examples in scripture we see that God, at times, denies our cries for immediate relief in order to accomplish His greater purposes. Our clients may be challenged by the question, How might God want to use His silence in your life now in order to fulfill His greater purposes later?

Let's Never Forget

Whether the trail has become cold due to some wrong turn of our own, or whether God is purposely staying out of sight for a time, one thing is sure: He is never far off. He may hide, but He has promised to never leave or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5-6).

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