The Path to Resilience
In our current context there’s a growing need for resilient workers, leaders and organizations. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficulty. It requires openness to change. But here’s the issue: We don’t change well on our own.
We may even resist change, digging in our heels and grasping for old certainties that don’t exist any longer. The road of resistance keeps us stuck. But forging a path of resilience can set us free. What does this path look like?
DISRUPTION
In seasons of transition and uncertainty, we need voices on the outside to disrupt our thinking by reflecting our thoughts back to us, challenging us to consider why we think and perceive things the way we do. This is the path of resilience: disruption…reflection….learning….action. And that’s hard to do in isolation, as most of us can testify. Been there. Done that.
My wife knows I’m pretty darn ticklish, and she’ll take advantage of that at times. It doesn’t take much effort on her part to make me squirm. But even as a ticklish individual, I can’t tickle myself. Leadership coach Marcia Reynolds states, “For the same reason we can’t tickle ourselves, our brains resist self- imposed testing of thoughts and reactions.” The catalyst for transformation requires engaging a process of disruption from the outside.
In this transition season, do you find yourself welcoming the disruption, or resisting it?
REFLECTION AND LEARNING
What could opening ourselves up to this process look like? As we allow more space and time to reflect and process the change, we do well to invite outside “disrupters” into our lives who bring the gift of presence, active listening and powerful questioning. When we have the courage to invite disruption, the stories we tell ourselves - our personal narratives – can change. In the process, we begin to learn and grow outside our perceived limits, moving all the while toward greater resilience.
What’s been your personal narrative through this transition season, the story you’ve been telling yourself? Has it been one of resistance or openness? Is it leading to resilience or feelings of stuckness? These personal narratives impact our emotional and spiritual well-being, our relationships and organizational cultures. Engaging a process of disruption, reflection, learning and action lends itself to changing the narrative and creating a culture of personal and professional resilience.
ACTION
The path to resilience…disruption, reflection and learning…combine to create the clarity and momentum necessary for positive Spirit-led action to take place. But the process takes time. The temptation is to leap into action too soon, hoping to avoid the pain and uncertainty by making it to the other side of transition. As a result, the process of learning and growth gets sabotaged. Here are some potential focus areas to consider as you slow down, invite disruption and move toward greater resilience:
Revisiting personal and organizational core values.
Soaking in God’s Word regularly…renewing our minds.
Sorting and sifting ideas and options by engaging in a season of discernment.
Confronting Identity issues and aligning what I do with who I am.
Learning new strategies for consistently showing up and taking action.
Recognizing and removing obstacles to growth and development.
Focus and self-discipline….leading ourselves with greater intentionality.
Prioritizing what matters most and creating strategies to achieve desired outcomes.
Some questions to consider…
Which of the above focus areas could take on a community or organizational approach? Which ones are more personal, individual, and reflective?
Who could you invite into your personal journey toward greater agility as you consider these focus areas? A coach, counselor, spiritual director, mentor, trusted friend?
What path are you on? The one of resilience or resistance?
If you’re finding yourself resisting rather than engaging the process of resilience, I’d love to explore some options with you. Let’s have a conversation. Schedule a discovery call with me or simply send me an email.
I hope to see you on the path of resilience!
Tim
5 Reasons People Fail to Grow Through Transition
Whether we initiate a transition ourselves or it happens to us, why leave the process up to chance? How can we navigate the waters of transition more purposefully? As a fellow transitioner, I've struggled to find reasons why some of my own transitions haven't been as successful as they could have been. Here's 5 Reasons why people fail to grow through transition….
Recently, while introducing a workshop on the topic of transitions, I conducted an experiment. I asked the attendees to introduce themselves to someone new and to only talk about things in their lives which were NOT changing. The conversation dragged on for a few minutes. Energy and interest remained low. Next, I gave them permission to talk about anything and everything in their lives related to change. Life and energy returned to the room. It was hard to break up the conversations.
The Reminder? Transition is a universal part of all our lives. It’s where we all find common ground and interest. Transition trends among us.
Change is trending because it's always constant and arresting our attention. Just as all things trending rank high in number of online searches and views, transition trends among us, capturing our attention, occupying our thoughts and conversations.
How has transition impacted you? Do you feel victimized by it? Blessed because of it? Challenged through it?
Given its universality, we would do well to maximize the personal and professional benefits transition seasons offer. Whether we initiate a transition ourselves or it happens to us, why leave the process up to chance? How can we navigate the waters of transition more purposefully?
As a coach I help people get intentional with transition. As a fellow transitioner, I've struggled to find reasons why some of my own transitions haven't been as successful as they could have been.
Here's 5 Reasons why people fail to grow through transition….
Not establishing clear goals. I once thought goals were somewhat useless during seasons of change because transition messes with them too much. The opposite is true. The fact is setting goals, personal and professional, is the SMART way to navigate change. Having goals through a difficult transition can greatly increase the potential to stay the course when obstacles surprise us and expectations aren't met.
Not setting aside time and space for processing. Failure is linked to forging ahead during transition seasons without due diligence. That due diligence consists of finding ways to reflect and process. A good balance of personal reflection and processing with a coach you can trust is the path to success.
Falling back into old habits. Transition paths are often marked by signs along the way, ones which tell us to break away from the old patterns and habits which got us stuck in the first place. The perfect opportunity to dislodge old lifestyle and work habits that aren’t serving us well is when we're going through a season of change.
The fear of risk. This is a big one. We fear what we don’t know, and transition and the unknown are blood brothers. While risking it all to pursue our dreams sounds glamorous, and the potential to maximize growth opportunities in change is never higher, fear of failure might be something we need to confront. The bigger the transition, the more potential to be paralyzed by fear.
Taking an all or nothing approach. I used to think that everything needs to change when transition calls. No stone left unturned was my motto. Now I realize this isn’t necessarily true. In fact it’s rarely true. God has always been gracious to to leave me some “holds” during a transition climb to keep me hopeful on the journey upward. As William Bridges puts it,
“As rock climbers try to move only one hand (or foot) at a time, keeping the other three points of contact with the rock solid, so the person in transition will usually do well to use the rest of his or her life as a series of “holds” while making a transition elsewhere.”
One final thought...
What if we were to visualize transition as a coin, marked by resistance on one side and growth on the other? When we find ourselves resisting change, could we be sabotaging our own growth? What side of the coin are you on today?
New Frontiers: 3 Outcomes of Cultivating Curiosity
Is a major transition igniting your curiosity in some unexpected or surprising way? Learn how cultivating curiosity through transition seasons can lead to 3 super positive outcomes.
I’m currently reading a book titled Undaunted Courage by Stephen E. Ambrose. The author’s retelling of the Lewis and Clark journey has kindled within me a new interest in American history. I attribute this newfound curiosity to the ways of transition.
The Lewis and Clark expedition was fueled by a good dose of curiosity during a major transition period. While other political and economic agendas were undoubtedly present, scientific discovery loomed large as a top priority. Simply put, curiosity got the better of our forefathers, proving to be a game changer in our country’s formation.
Transitions are like new expeditions into unexplored territory. As we set out on transition’s path, we may be surprised at what sparks interest and fuels motivation.
Is a major transition igniting your curiosity in some unexpected or surprising way? I encourage you to explore the uncharted territory which transition affords.
Cultivating curiosity through transition seasons can lead to 3 super positive outcomes:
1. Discovery. When we cultivate curiosity we begin to gain new perspective. Personal desires and dreams come to the surface. We become more aware of ourselves, our gifts and how we are wired. We discover values that have shifted. When I started to cultivate curiosity I began breaking out of restrictive patterns or thinking. Those patterns were part of my old life, but should they be part of the new? How can I make room for new desires and interests and awaken old interests that have been dormant?
2. Fulfillment. As we begin to live out of our new orientation, aligned with our values and convictions, we come to a new place of fulfillment. Fulfillment comes even as we awkwardly try on new schedules, priorities and activities. Why? Because we are moving in alignment with our convictions, not simply our comforts.
3. Wisdom. Wisdom is a treasure gained by paying attention. As we take the time to learn from the past and reflect on what our experiences have taught us, we gain a wealth of wisdom. We then take this valuable commodity into the next season and future transitions. As we share what we’ve learned with our fellow transitioners, wisdom is multiplied.
“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.”
What price are you willing to pay in order to secure this priceless commodity? How can you cultivate curiosity through your transition season? What clues into your purpose and destiny are waiting to be uncovered?
As your coach I’m here to support you. Schedule a complementary discovery call to get started on your journey.
Here to serve,
–Tim Austin
Founder and Coach, Encompass Life Coaching